Fears are normal human emotions created by our imagination to make reality seem scarier than it is.
Learning to deal with fear is all about putting your negative thought in perspective. We tend to focus too much on the negative, so by looking at all the options, you often realize that you’re making a big deal of nothing.
There are so many things that can happen that it’s impossible for you to predict. Getting through fear is a skill that you can learn. If you aren’t ready to face your fears, you probably won’t transcend them.
Before you can begin managing your fear , you have to be aware that You are not your fears. You are the awareness that experiences it.
Get specific about what exactly you are afraid of.Look at the pictures you have in your head about the situation. What is happening in them? What are you really scared of? Get curious about what thoughts generate your fear, where do you feel the fear, and how do you react to it?
I encourage that when ever you feel fear switch it over to what you are grateful for . If you’re afraid of public speaking, be grateful for the opportunity to communicate with so many people, and that they are there to genuinely listen to what you have to say.
When you take action and face your fears, they become weaker, because you realize that reality isn’t nearly as bad as your imagination.Whenever fear strikes, flip it over. Instead of thinking of something bad that can happen think of something positive.
What’s a positive outcome to your fear?
If you’re thinking about public speaking, imagine yourself being wildly successful instead of failing horribly. Part of the challenge in overcoming fear is that we want predictability, even though it’s impossible to get. Where we don’t have control, we experience fear.
But is it possible to ever have control over all situations?
A good swimmer can drown. A professional make up artist can still make mistakes and mess up a clients face . its challenging but achievable to give up the illusion of control. When you realize that failure is not the end of the world, you become free. Failure is just a stepping stone to success. And most of our fears are fear of failure, shame, or somehow not living up to the standards society has put up for us.
Your feelings are there to tell you something, ask what the purpose of them is. What are your fears trying to tell you?
Pray for guidance on how to start overcoming your specific fear. Prayer is a very good therapy for managing your fear. At the end of the day, the authentic truth is that you have the power to manage your fear and make the best out of any situation.